Tuesday, September 30, 2008
Friday, September 26, 2008
Sunday, September 14, 2008
Saturday, September 13, 2008
Last year he decided that he didnt want to get out of bed to pick them up so he wasnt going to see them that day. He blamed it on the snow that had fallen the night before and said that he couldnt get out of his driveway. I however called his bluff and drove the kids to his house instead. Well the driveway was perfectly clear when I pulled in and he was none too pleased with me for showing up. All I did was bring the kids to the door and tell him I would be right back with the car seats so he could bring them back to me later. Instead of being NORMAL about it, he instead PUTS HIS HANDS AROUND MY NECK and screams at me to get off his property. Naturally, I did just that BUT with the kids in tow. There was no way I was leaving them there with that kind of anger. The judge though at our next custody hearing just IGNORED it all together and treated me like an idiot for trying to have supervision during the times him and I would be in the same room.
Things had finally seemed to be getting better between us and we were acting great together around the kids. His fiance and I were even chatting during pick ups/drop offs. So this message came out of no where. He said that Ive been contacting him too much and that he doesnt want to hear from me other than when he picks up the kids. Thats great really. I just dont get what prompted it. Rayden has been calling him about every little thing lately and sometimes he hands the phone to me to explain something like the directions to taekwon do. ITS NOT LIKE I CALL HIM, Rayden does. I think he may just be pissed off that Rayden's Wii has to come back now. He and I both paid half so that Rayden could have a Wii for his bday last month. The Ex gave it to him during a visit and then it came here to my parents house. Because of the way this house is set up, I didnt really have much supervision of its use and it ended up getting broken right away. We got it replaced and The Ex and I both decided that it would be better at his place until I had my own house again and could better watch it. Well last week Rayden asked him about it and he said that it wasnt coming back. When I was informed of this little change from Rayden, I told him that I would have to talk to his dad about it. So then Rayden calls up The Ex and tells him that Mommy is going to have a talk with him about the Wii. Totally the wrong thing to do. You really have to be delicate how you bring things up with this man or they blow up in your face. I have no idea if Ill ever see that Wii again now and because he didnt give me a receipt for the half I paid, I dont have a leg to stand on. Grrr, this man frustrates me to no end!
He doesnt pay a penny in support. He is supposed to pay about $400/month but hasnt paid anything yet. I applied to court last July about it and it still has not been heard. The upside is that when it does go through, he will owe me everything from the day I applied for it. So far it is up to over $5000. The new big screen tv that he bought last week is just going to have to go back I guess! He told the mediator (the first step in this province is to see a mediator) that it would cause undue hardship for him to have to pay support because he was going to be having another baby and he would have to support her. Now that he is spending money on expensive clothes and tvs though, that argument goes out the window!
First thing Monday, Im going back to that court house to get this custody thing settled once and for all. Im sure that since I didnt make it to court in time to get our new arrangement of every other weekend made official, it wont even happen. The hardest part is that at any moment, this man can change everything and if I try to do anything about it, Im the bad guy.
Friday, September 12, 2008
Moving day is Monday and I can not wait. Ive been doing really stupid, mundane things to try to get ready for it but really there is little that I can do. Most of our stuff is in storage and because I had to pack everything and move it all in 7 hours, I just threw stuff in boxes. Unpacking is going to be a nightmare! Also because everything has been sitting in a storage unit for 3 months, its all going to need to be washed which will take months with a new baby Im sure. So Ive been washing what little clothes/blankets we do have with us in hopes of getting ahead a little. There were garbage bags of clothes in the garage that are now washed and refolded, ready to be moved and put into dressers again. Ive washed my bedding and put it away so that when I collapse Monday night, Ill at least have clean sheets.
Im worried about how long it will take me to get settled in the new house though. Its not like I actually have a job at the moment so I really do have loads of time, but its the babies that will keep me away from it. Josiah is only 2 months and Michael is 22 months. Both of them require a lot of attention and they are not both down for the night until about 9. Has anyone else had to move/unpack with little ones around? How did you do it?
The other down side to this whole moving thing is that I will be without internet for a few days. I tried to make the appointment for the tech to come on Wed but they didnt call me back to confirm that they had someone avail for that day. So Im guessing it will take a little longer than that so we'll have to see. Ill be missing everyone by then and Ill probably end up ignoring the towers of boxes to spend a couple hours catching up on all of your posts.
In PIF news, IVe almost got Dr. Maureen's package ready to go but Im waiting to unpack some things to decorate the box. I was just going to do something small and send it off anyway, but then time got away from me and I figured I was close enough to getting my things back anyway. For a teaser, the box inclues something from this etsy shop as well as this one. I wont tell you what Ive picked because I dont want to ruin the surprise, so you'll all just have to wait for Dr. Maureen to do her big reveal when she recieves it!
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
I didnt think I would be so into all those comments, but it turns out that I do really like them. I even find myself writing silly little questions at the end of posts to encourage comments. So what is a girl to do when she does not recieve any comments for what, a week now?
I feel so sad internets. I know y'all have been coming by cause I've gotten myself a nifty little counter down there on the right. So why then is no one commenting? Even with the promise of surprise gifts that show up in your mail, you dont comment.
Oh internets, wont you gimme some comment love?
Monday, September 8, 2008
Also Ive heard from Dr Maureen about her PIF win. Thanks Swistle for passing on that info!
So recap on contests...
I won the plain white box PIF from whimsy and held my own contest.
Dr. Maureen won that contest and will be getting the (not so)plain white box shortly.
I also down right stole this contest idea from Spuddy Buddy and will put together a prize package when I randomly draw a winner. I wont be closing that contest until I have at least 15 entries or the end of the month, which ever comes first.
I also won Chraycee's PIF and will be holding my own in a couple weeks.
Whew! Thats a lot of contests ( and links!)
Im hijacking her post and hosting my own contest of the same style. To enter, simply leave a comment on this post telling me when you had your last yearly exam or a promise to make one ASAP! I haven't decided on a prize specifically and I don't want to totally steal her idea of a teal themed prize so you'll just have to wait and see...
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Wednesday, September 3, 2008
Its so nice to have a car again. I havent been without one since Rayden was a baby and now that Ive gone four months I certainly have a new appreciation for that luxury.
There is a home for rent about 10 minutes from where I am staying now that Im not sure about. It is brand new and there is no apt in the basement (extremely common around here for two apt homes) so it is expensive. Because it is outside of he city though it is much cheaper than a similar one within. My problem is that it is $150/month more than I was paying before. Because it is so big I could take on a room mate but they would have to be someone I knew because of the kids. But Im not sure I can find someone willing to do this. Ive asked my cousin who used to visit us daily when we had our own place but she's not sure if she could swing it. I really love the house though and there is a school and daycare a few houses down. Oh my, what to do?
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
I was back and forth about what to do with this week after everyone's wonderful suggestions. In the end I realised that I am buying a car this week and that is gift enough in itself! Next week I am joining some type of class that will get me out of the house alone one night each week. I almost went ahead and got a magazine subscription which was one of the suggestions but I decided to wait on that one for another couple of weeks. My weight hasn't changed at all since I started this which is good in that I haven't gained anything but sucky because I wanted to continue to go down a bit. Ive been eating really badly for the last two weeks so that probably has a lot to do with it. Usually I gain everything back in the few months after my babies are born so I end up being whatever I was at 9 months pregnant. This time though I am determined to not gain back any of the weight that I have already lost and try to loose a little more. We'll see how it goes though with the cold weather and holidays coming up. Im realistic about this taking a long time and I don't trust diets so it will come off slowly and that's fine with me.
Today is the last day of summer vacation for Rayden and it is raining! I get my car tonight around 6 so it is probably too late to do anything but we might go out for ice cream or something just to say goodbye to summer. Rayden asked if I could bring him out to supper tomorrow evening because it is the first day of school. We usually go to a restaurant for a meal near their birthdays and we didn't this year because he was waiting for a day when his dad and dad's gf could go too. I feel bad not bringing him because he is old enough now to know that it is a tradition in our family so I may just bring him out tomorrow night just to make up for the guilty feelings!